lara simmons

"TRUST YOUR EQUIPMENT. "  -- Cat Saunders, PhD Today I want to talk more about one of the quotes I posted earlier in the week for #inspireMEMonday  because it was a breakthrough for me in terms of understanding why I sometimes struggle more than I need to in difficult relationships. As I explained in Monday's post, what this quote means to me is something along the lines of, "listen to yourself, listen to your body." In other words, if - after an interaction with another human being - you feel angry or hurt or yucky, don't just dismiss that, listen to it. That feeling is trying to tell you something. What I realized in my latest session with my counselor (Dr Cat) is that I have not been listening, for YEARS. When someone does something that hurts me or makes me angry I feel the feeling, but almost immediately I turn it around on myself and start berating myself: "Don't take it personally." "Let it go." "If you were a big...

"Feelings, nothing more than feelings..." -- Morris Albert I can't think of the word feelings without hearing this song, but who knew it was sung by a guy??? I would have sworn it was Barbara Streisand or some other female diva. But no, it's this guy . (I also found this version by Nina Simone, which I think is pretty amazing.) Anyway, my Guides wanted to talk about FEELINGS today. Here's what they had to say:  Enjoy all of your feelings, not just those you have labeled 'good.' When you stop and really feel them, all emotions feel good. Think about it. Doesn't it feel good to feel sad sometimes? Or to feel the rush of anger? The exhilaration of joy? The bubbling up of excitement? Do you allow yourself to truly feel all of your feelings or do you tamp some of them down? Label them 'bad' or 'evil' or 'too much?' Acting on your feelings is a different matter entirely. It is not okay to lash out in anger or shame someon...