Posts

Showing posts from September, 2013

Wisdom from David Mura

"If you don't have children, you can't imagine how difficult it is to raise them, how little control you have over who they are, who they will become. You can never know what effect you're having. You can do something that seems right at the time, then later wrong, then later it seems right again." --David Mura

A rough morning at the breakfast table. It's 9:00 am and I feel spent. Really appreciating this quote from David Mura today from his great book, Where the Body Meets Memory.

And still, even More Wisdom from Tom Spanbauer

"Sometimes when the universe fucks you up, it's part of a larger plan."  --Tom Spanbauer

Testify!

Yes, even more wisdom from Tom Spanbauer

"You don't need to buy it to own it...If you own yourself, you own the world." --Tom Spanbauer

Have I mentioned that I LOVE this book?

More Wisdom from Tom Spanbauer

Image
"Nobody loves you the way your dog loves you." --Tom Spanbauer


This is how my god...whoops....Freudian slip....dog loves me - right up in my face.

Wisdom from Tom Spanbauer (He'll be here all week!)

"Miracles are out there somewhere. You just got to find them." --Tom Spanbauer, from his book Now Is The Hour

Sometimes a book is just a book, and sometimes it's a miracle.

This book - Now Is The Hour - feels like a miracle to me. It has been such a long time since I read a book that made me feel like this. Like the author has understood something about life that has not been understood before. (At least not for me. )

What this book understands - and explores - is the ways in which we are not only not allowed to BE who we are, but the ways in which we are not even allowed to KNOW who we are.

It happens to all of us, not just closeted gay men growing up in rural Idaho. We are all shaped by where we are born and when we are born and to whom we are born. Sometimes this is a perfect fit, but more often than not, it is not and we all have to discover, for ourselves, who we really are.

In a way I think that is the miracle we are all searching for, the chance to KNOW ourselves …

Wisdom from Shelley Lundquist

"Everything you want is on the other side of fear." --Shelley Lundquist

First Day Fear

“...[N]o man is free if he fears death...[T]he minute you conquer the fear of death, at that moment you are free." --Martin Luther King, Jr.

I love this quote, and it terrifies me. The truth of it terrifies me and the truth I know in my heart that I am still very much afraid of death. And illness and getting in trouble and not being liked and conflict and confrontation. Let's just say I have a ways to go until I am truly free.

I am thinking about this today because it's the first day of middle school for my older son and there is a lot of fear among parents around middle school, mainly based on their own experiences of it I suppose, but also a lot of the "talk" these days is about drugs and sex and social posturing - all of which supposedly starts in middle school. It's not that I think "they" are wrong necessarily, I am just beginning to wonder if we should fear it all.

When I think back upon my middle school (and high school) days I know I had it…

Wisdom from Khalid Hosseini

"It's a funny thing...but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really what guides them is what they're afraid of. What they DON'T want.”  --Khalid Hosseini, from his book And The Mountains