Monday, September 26, 2016

Inspire-ME Monday #8: Substituting Faith for Fear

Just one today, but I think it is a powerful one. And maybe one that explains our whole election...

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Writer or Blogger? THAT is the question

Before I took my summer hiatus (which, by the way, lasted longer than I expected, having promised to return in August, sorry about that) I wrote about listening to yourself and for the past few weeks, the phrase "Do you want to be a WRITER or a BLOGGER?" has been staring at me every time I sit down at my desk. This phrase came to me as I was working on Monday's post, "Harmonizing Yes and No," which I started before the hiatus.

This post was to be a continuation of the listening to yourself theme, specifically addressing the difficulties involved in saying YES or saying NO in specific situations. But what keeps coming up for me as I think about starting to write again is this question: "Do I want to be a WRITER or a BLOGGER?" And the answer for me is clear: WRITER. No question.

Conventional wisdom says that these days ("these days" being the days of Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and now Snapchat. Actual serious ADULTS are on Snapchat now. Did you know that?) you kind of have to be both, but I am not sure that is possible for me. I spent most of last year writing a book and I have spent most of this year blogging and trying to beef up my social media presence.

Of course while writing my book I did a bit of blogging, and while blogging I have done a bit of writing, but before my hiatus I was not making the progress I wanted to be making on my second book while also blogging twice a week. So it is time for me to get my YES'S and my NO'S in order. To say YES to more writing, and NO to more blogging, and NO to those who would tell me that this is a mistake. 

It may be a mistake for them, but it is not a mistake for me and I know because the Universe told me so. 

So Monday September 19th was the last regularly scheduled Inspire-Me Monday and this post the first of my new blogging schedule, which is to say, I will blog whenever I have time and have something to say or just feel like writing a blog post. 

Otherwise I will be working on my next book (teaser: It's about KINDNESS) and reading great books and collecting inspirational quotes to share with you and just generally living my life. 

I will still be posting stuff on my Facebook Community Page (Being and Becoming) for now and I will still tweet information about my writing and this blog on Twitter (@be_and_become), but I will be posting and tweeting a lot less. If you would like to stay in touch please like my Facebook Community Page or SIGN UP to receive posts via email in the right-hand margin of this blog. 

In the meantime listen to yourself: say "YES!" (with an exclamation point) to that which serves your highest good and "NO." (with a period) to anything that doesn't. 

Lots of love and Happy Fall!

Monday, September 19, 2016

Inspire-ME Monday #7: Harmonizing "Yes" and "No"

"Stress is when your mind says NO, but your mouth says YES."The Wallingford Sign

"Give yourself permission to say 'No.' Reclaim the power of 'No' without guilt. It’s a beautiful thing - for you, for the other person and for the relationship. It offers everyone involved the gift of self responsibility. When you have clear reasons and a clear strategy for saying 'No' it becomes a very positive and empowering experience." --Ian Lawton on

"You have the right to say NO."        --The Universe to ME

"The time to say yes is when both your head and your heart freely say yes." --Frank Andrews PhD in his book "The Art and Practice of Loving" 

"...[T]he word 'no' should be the 'end of the discussion, not the beginning of a negotiation.'" --Amy Poehler quoting from Gavin de Becker's book “The Gift of Fear” in her book "Yes Please!"

"Yes without No is appeasement, whereas No without Yes is war. Yes without No destroys one’s own satisfaction, whereas No without Yes destroys one’s relationship with others. We need both Yes and No together. For Yes is the key word of community, No the key word of individuality. Yes is the key word of connection, No the key word of protection. Yes is the key word of peace, No the key word of justice. The great art is to learn to integrate the two—to marry Yes and No. That is the secret to standing up for yourself and what you need without destroying valuable agreements and precious relationships.” --William Ury from "The Power of a Positive No"

 "Saying NO can be the ultimate self-care." --Claudia Black

"Unless someone truly has the power to say no, they never truly have the power to say yes." --Dan Millman in "Way of the Peaceful Warrior"

"Once we know how to harmonize between Yes and No, everything is solved." --Tsoknyi Rinpoche speaking at Nalanda West