Thursday, February 26, 2015

Wisdom from Amy Poehler

"Good for her! Not for me."

While shopping with friends in Portland recently - at the famous Powell's Bookstore - I came across this quote from Amy Poehler that I think could very well save millions of female friendships the world over: "Good for her! Not for me." 

Amy uses this phrase often in her book, when talking about her friend Maya Rudolph who had a home birth, or other women she knows who don't work outside the home, and it works brilliantly to both celebrate the other woman's choices and accomplishments and to stave off any competition or jealousy that may arise. I wish I had had this phrase at my disposal when I was a young mother. 

"She sleep trained her child and now he sleeps through the night every night?" "Good for her! Not for me."

"She is still nursing her three year old as well as her new baby?" "Good for her! Not for me."

"She uses only cloth diapers, washes them in enviro-friendly detergent and then hangs them out to dry?" "Good for her! Not for me!"

It would have saved me a lot of angst, self-doubt and hatred (mostly of myself). 

It's not too late though. I encounter situations in which to use this every day. "She is a single mom to two kids, stars in her own sitcom AND just wrote her first book?" "Good for her! Not for me." 

Thanks Amy :) 

Friday, February 6, 2015

Wisdom from The Imitation Game

"Sometimes it's the people no one imagines anything of who do the things no one can imagine." --From "The Imitation Game"

For everyone who feels they are a little bit - or even a lot bit - weird or different. Keep doing what you are doing. 

Monday, February 2, 2015

You Gotta Have Faith

"[You] gotta have faith" --George Michael

When I think about what went wrong in the big game on Sunday against the Patriots, I keep coming back to the word FAITH.

All season long, even when it didn't make any sense, that's what this Seahawks team had. They had FAITH. In themselves and in each other. Faith, faith, faith.
And it seems to me that in the last seconds of the Super Bowl they lost it.

They got scared and they forgot who they are.

They forgot that if you have twenty seconds on the clock and three tries and you give the ball to Marshawn Lynch he WILL make it across that goal line even if - maybe especially if - everyone on the other team knows he's going to have the ball.

This lack of faith - in themselves and in each other - cost them this game. And it is so sad.

It is heart-breaking, really, on so many levels. After the miraculous win against the Packers and after the miraculous catch just minutes prior and after all the talk about cheating and deflated balls, it just doesn't make sense that they lost this game. Until you realize that they lost faith.

For just twenty seconds they lost it, and it cost them the Super Bowl. Now they have to get it back. We all do.

How many times has this happened to you? How many times have you lost faith in yourself? In those around you? I think it happens to me multiple times a day sometimes. And what does it cost us? How many dropped balls? How many missed opportunities?

The fact is, it is human to lose faith. We all do it and we all suffer for it. And all we can do is try to get it back and keep on going. It's what I'm doing this week. It's what I hope the Seahawks are doing this week. And I hope you are too. 

Here's another quote about faith that I think may help. It's helped me:
"Faith is the courage to treat everything that happens as exactly what you need for your highest good and learning." --Dan Millman, "Everyday Enlightenment"
Keep the Faith!