Monday, June 25, 2012

Quote of the Week - June 25, 2012 - Things Will Look Better in the Morning

"Tomorrow's another day. Sometimes that's your only consolation when today's not so good. Things can look different after a good night's sleep, or just 24 hours' passage of time. It'd be great if you could turn things around right this second, but that's just not always possible; when it's not, the best thing to do is just remember that everything changes. Stop railing against the lameness of the moment, and simply concentrate on getting through it. Bide your time. Notice the small little things that are still sweet, instead of the one big sour thing…and wait." --Caeriel Crestin from Sign Language

According to my mom my paternal grandmother always used to say, "Things will look better in the morning." Apparently the Universe agrees.

Things are not going to plan around our house right now and the Divine gift or purpose of it all is alluding me. There is a part of me that is pushing against "the way things are" hoping to find "the way I would like things to be" buried underneath.

The more I travel along the path of the spirit, however, the more I begin to suspect that what is really underneath "the way things are" is "the way I really don't want things to be."

The more I push and try to force my life to look the way I want it to look, the worse things go. The more I let go and just allow things to be as they are the better off I am. I am convinced that pushing the Universe to do it my way leads to missed connections, opportunities and chances to learn and grow.

So I am biding my time today. Trying to notice what is sweet. And waiting....Things will look better in the morning. 

Monday, June 18, 2012

Quote of the Week - June 18, 2012 - My Purposeful Life

"Paradoxical as it may seem, the purposeful life has no content, no point. It hurries on and misses everything. Not hurrying, the purposeless life misses nothing, for it is only when there is no goal and no rush that the human senses are fully open to receive the world. " --Alan Watts in The Sun magazine

I am living a purposeful life this week. So purposeful in fact, that it is Friday and I am just now posting my "Quote of the Week." (For those of you who have been checking in this week, I do apologize....)

Today is the last day of school for my kids and this week has been full of rushing and hurrying and doing and not a lot of purposelessness. The whole week has been full of purpose. And I am sure that I have missed a lot.

I miss sitting and drinking tea. I miss doing yoga. I miss meditating. I miss reading. I miss just doing a whole lot of nothing.

And that is what I am planning for next week. Nothing. A whole lot of it.

That is not to say that I will not be doing anything, only that I will not be planning anything. I mean to embrace purposelessness and miss nothing.

May you have make time for that this summer as well. It's the perfect time for it!

Friday, June 15, 2012

WRITE YOUR LIFE in Two Months!

Are you feeling STUCK, unsure about what comes next? Do you want to WRITE, but never seem to find the time? Are you ready to RE-CREATE your life, but don't know how?

Please join me at East West Bookshop in Seattle on August 15th and 22nd and WRITE YOUR LIFE! Over the course of two evenings we will take a look at where we are in our lives, where we want to go, and how to use writing as a way to get there.

Whether writing is what you truly want to do, or "just" the means to your ultimate goal, this class can help you learn how to manifest that which you truly desire. Hope to see you there!

Monday, June 11, 2012

Quote of the Week - June 11, 2012 - City of Angels

"I don't know you, but I love you." --Lydia at Unity of Burbank

I was in LA last week for the first time. I had never been before and never really had the desire to go. I still didn't really, but a class I had been wanting to take was being given there and then my sister decided to come out and meet me so it was all coming together.

Then, the class was cancelled. Ugh.

It was really hard for me to get over this. I had a plan gosh darn it. I was going to take this class, then the next one and then become a certified Akashic Records teacher. The Universe was messing with my plan.

You have to laugh, of course, at my boldness, my arrogance, my naïveté. The Universe was messing with MY plan?

I decided to go anyway, to spend some time with my sister and see what LA was all about.

I couldn't have been more surprised! The people we met were lovely. Warm, friendly and eager to help. We met many Los Angeles angels along the way.

Three angels on a bus helped us get to Santa Monica for a day at the beach where dolphins came to frolic in the waves for us.

Two of our angels led us astray when giving directions home (kudos to Angel #1 for telling them not to complicate things for us ;), but that allowed us to have our one and only star sighting - Sally Kellerman at the West Hollywood Whole Foods - to stock up on Pure Bars, and to meet our Cab Driver angel who gave us an impromptu tour of the Hollywood Hills.

Many public transport angels, plus the always angelic Siri,  helped us hit the Hollywood hot spots sans car and the big red (and expensive) tour bus. Two even gave us free rides. 

And then there was Lydia. 

On Sunday morning we hoofed it over to Unity of Burbank to hear a friend of my sister's give the message and we were surrounded by angels. 
From the moment we entered the building we were welcomed with open arms and open hearts by all we met. And everyone we met, it seemed, had a connection to either New York (where my sister lives) or Seattle. 

There was the man from Unity of Kent helping his Uncle with some home repairs. The woman from New York who still wore a Yankees pendant around her neck. The man from LA who used to lived in New York AND Seattle. And, of course, there was Lydia. 

She used to live in New York, had moved to LA in the 60's with her husband and family. Had raised her kids here and was now, mostly alone. She was quiet, a bit shy, but friendly. We chatted for awhile and then it was time for the service. 

It started with song as most Unity services do. First, "We Are One in the Spirit," which did our former Protestant hearts good to hear. Then "It's in Every One of Us," which was new to me, but lovely. And finally a rousing rendition of "Good Morning God." In spite of being a small congregation, they really know how to bring down the house at Unity of Burbank.

After the singing was the Opening Prayer and then the Welcome. 

When I said small congregation I was exaggerating slightly. The congregation is tiny. Around 25 people attend services on an average Sunday. 40 or so on a big day like Easter or Christmas. But boy is there a lot of love in this house. 

During the Welcome music is playing and everyone wanders around the sanctuary hugging everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. Why not? That's only 24 hugs!

I hugged the people I had met and people I had never seen before in my life. And I hugged Lydia. When I did she said to me, "I love you. I don't know you, but I love you." And with these words she touched my heart, brought tears to my eyes, and made my day. No, my vacation. 

Ever since, I think about her whenever I am surrounded by strangers and I ask myself, "Do I love these people even though I don't know them? Could I love them even though I don't know them?"

Sometimes it is hard enough to love those we do know, but loving those we don't, loving everyone, is what we are here to do. Lydia reminded me of that. She was an angel for me that day. Just one of many Los Angeles angels.

Monday, June 4, 2012

Quote of the Week - June 4, 2012 - It's just that simple

"No blame, be kind, love everything." --Terrance Keenan

My favorite quotes are always those that seem, to me, to be the answer to life, The Universe and everything.  There are just a few quotes that seem to be all I really need to know. And this is one of them.

No blame. Don't blame anyone for anything, including yourself. The only purpose of blame is to cause guilt and never solves the problem at hand. It makes you a victim and not the powerful being that you are. Just don't do it.

Be kind. In everything you do, be kind. Be kind when saying "No." Be kind when giving constructive criticism. Be kind when arguing. Be kind when angry. All of these things are possible, even if we think they aren't, and make life a lot more pleasant.

I have started using this on my kids - when they ask for more screen time, when they refuse to eat their veggies, when they are pitching a huge fit about something - even as I tell them "No," explain the consequences (no dessert) and let them know their behavior is not acceptable, I do it in as kind as voice as possible. It makes all the difference in the world.

Love everything. The other week I was in a meeting in which two people, both in a heightened emotional state, started going at it. My old pattern would have been to take sides and place blame (see #1), but thanks to all the work I have done I was able to see this situation for what it was. Two people REacting instead of responding to the emotions they were feeling. Two people mirroring for each other what they needed to love in themselves. I would go so far as to say two people waking up.

When we start to air our emotional baggage in public it is a sign that it is coming to the forefront, to be confronted, worked with, made peace with and, eventually, released. I was able to love what was happening even though on some level it was uncomfortable for all of us. And I am trying to do this in my own life. To see my road blocks, my shortcomings, and, yes, even my temper tantrums as paving stones on the path to my awakening and to love it all.

No blame. Be kind. Love Everything. It's just that simple.

[BTW...I got this quote from my friend Fiona Robyn's "Writing Our Way Home" newsletter. You can read the whole thing here. And sign up here.]