30 Days of Forgiveness 2015 - Day 22 - Forgiving in the Moment

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"To be forgiven is such sweetness that honey is tasteless in comparison....But...there is one thing sweeter still, and that is to forgive." --Charles Spur

This is perhaps the simplest of all forgiveness techniques, but it only works if you can really mean it in the moment you use it. I mostly use it for smaller things, or on days when I am feeling particularly evolved, or in a really good forgiveness groove. Here it is:

When something happens, someone is rude to you or says something hurtful or wrongs you in some way instead of reacting, just forgive them, right then and there, in the moment. Decide to let it go. And then do it.

If you find, after a few minutes or days, that the resentment is creeping up on you, that is an indicator that this incident may not be a "forgive in the moment" situation. If so, do some more traditional forgiveness work to completely release it. This tool will not work in every situation, but when it does it can save a lot of time and energy and feels great!

Have fun playing around with this one and Happy Day 22! <3 <3 <3

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