30 Days of Forgiveness 2015 - Day 27 - Accountability Counts

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"Forgiveness is not about releasing someone from accountability for his actions. It is about us letting go of our anger and resentment."
--@TrainingMindful on Twitter

I think it is important to keep this in mind when working on forgiveness. 

Forgiveness does not mean you don't take care of business: set a boundary, get away from an unsafe situation, even call the police or take legal action. In fact, action can often be an important step in forgiving ourselves especially in cases where we were hurt precisely because we did not take action as soon as we needed to. 

Don't mistake forgiveness for being a doormat. Forgiveness is powerful and goes hand in hand with taking back your power in the world. 

What ACTION can you take today that will facilitate forgiveness? 

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