"There is no weakness in forgiveness." --From "Friday Night Lights"
There is no weakness in forgiveness. So why does it sometimes feel like there is?
Why was my first impulse to get angry at the old nun in Philomena and not to forgive? Even now, after the forgiveness work I have done, there is a part of me that wants to scream, "BUT SHE GOT AWAY WITH IT!! AND THAT'S NOT FAIR!"
You'd think I would have learned by now that life isn't fair and that sometimes the bad guys get away with it.....
But we forgive anyway. Because it's the right thing to do. Because it does more harm than good not to. Because it sets us free.
AND, we hold people accountable. We don't accept the same behavior again and again. We don't look the other way when they try to do the same thing to someone else. We set boundaries and limits with the person we have forgiven and we hold them steady.
And sometimes, when the person cannot - or does not - change their ways, we walk away. Not in anger, but from a place of forgiveness and strength.
We say to them, "I love you. I forgive you. And I cannot be in relationship with you any longer. Because I also love myself and that is what I need to do to take care of myself."
And there is no weakness in that.
May you find freedom and strength in the work you do today.
[Thanks for this one goes to my friend Karen ;) ]